So, I was thinking about my epic lack of social skills, and ongoing shortage of brickspace friends, and it occurred to me to think about it in hours spent. Which of course makes me think of GURPS rules for studyhttp://beccaelizabeth.dreamwidth.org/2683842.html
Getting to know a person is like a specialist topic. And you probably can't study books about them, mostly, though people something enough to have instruction manuals would be an interesting category. Reading their journal might count, but only i they're, like, super chatty and write all the things.
... my journal. Probably counts.
But I do skim the highlights only, for a lot of topics.
... yes I know it's very wordy for highlights.
Most people most of the time are not deliberately teaching you about themselves. There would be times they were, but probably not often.
And the kind of thing that counts as intensive training? Probably not going to come up in routine social interaction.
So most people most of the time, hanging out with them is like learning on the job.
Some people are in fact your job, but then all you need to know about them relates to your job, so the primary skill is your job skill, and different clients are, like, familiarisation penalties. (B169) Eight hours practice gives you familiarity with a new model. Before then you're at -2 even if you have the relevant skill. So you can improve rapidly in those 8 hours, which seems to be all Torchwood does to teach guns, but might make an instructor think they were really good at teaching. But with people, 8 hours getting to know them would get you over the really awkward stage.
But then just hanging out not teaching in particular? 800 hours. To get one point better. Than default. For a maximum of 8 hours a day.
Sooooo... that could take a while.
And I, personally, leave the house maybe 8 hours a week?
And much of that time is spent on the bus.
So to get over the first awkward might take two or three weeks, but then to actually start getting skill points in This New Person, that will take at least a hundred weeks. Or two hundred. Or... more.
And if any particular person is only there for one activity a month? A hundred months.
... which is a bit of a long time, really, and a complete explanation for only shallow acquaintance, without social skill penalties being involved at all.
Which makes me feel better about it.
... I mean my social skill penalties are also significant, but, theoretically not insurmountable, given sufficient time with an actual particular human.
Finding one you like well enough to invest 800 hours in is a tricky bit.
It was way easier when we got all those hours by osmosis at school, every single day, for years.
... easier in a way that I purely couldn't do any more, but, you know, in the friend-hours equation, that went faster.
So, new theory: just need more hours.
... at my age...